Girlfriend Tips for beginners to avoid making mistakes

Many people who have just stepped into the love field, because there is no love experience, in the process of communication, it is easy to make mistakes, and lead to breakup. The so-called "love field such as the battlefield", "victory and defeat is a common thing", this is a new love road, should hold the mentality. But let us not always be the wounded, where should fall, where to get up. Let's review the words and deeds one by one and see where they are "lame". "Love is romantic, no one will rationally talk about" love." Is that right? There is no absolute in anything, and absolutely emotional things do not exist in this world. Women who are new to society have read too many Japanese dramas, Korean dramas, and love novels in their teenage years, and have no chance to practice in reality, so they have accumulated too much longing for "love". Because of too much desire, it will mistake the possibility of receiving a signal. The object of love is slightly good, and it is not clear the difference between love and square inch chaos. Take a deep breath, talk about love, dance social newcomers, naturally do not understand the rules of the game of adults, also do not understand their social ways. It's simple. Take it easy, slow down, and be honest. Everything starts from the beginning, one is easy to relax, can understand each other. Second, do not let yourself be unnecessarily interfered with, affecting work performance. 2. You are not conjoined children "Every day aimlessly greasy together, words do not mean to feel good fun, walking, sitting, lying, lying, like two people are three feet and like conjoined twins." "Love Syndrome" by Huang Shujun sings. When I do love each other, I hope the first thing I see every day is him. Like conjoined twins, you can only do that by living together. But fuel, rice, oil and salt a chicken hair life, it is easy to break the fresh people's love dream. To cure each other, it is better to forget that living together in Jianghu is a big thing. If love is so deep that one day without seeing each other is like three years apart, then you should live together. Young lovers struggling in strange cities live together, but don't forget to "forget in rivers and lakes". The only way to keep love alive is to have a third space: your social circle, your career, your friends. 3. Believe that you have met the best Japanese writer Junichiro Watanabe, when analyzing the sexual instinct of men and women, he used an interesting metaphor: men have the hunting instinct to conquer the number of women to gain confidence; The woman is a home instinct, meet the love of people, feel to organize a family with him. Young women are easy to love the man as the last, unable to extricate themselves after love, self-harm, self-depravity of women too numerous to enumerate. The self-destruction of the girl after her emotional injury in "Half is sea, Half is Fire", the tragedy of the green son unable to walk out of the death of his first love in "Norwegian Forest", the sad Qin Hailu in the Li Houlin incident, and the tearful Zhou Yanhong in public... The right medicine, love, life can bear the light, in fact, love can not escape the law of nature, life must have death. The death of a relationship doesn't mean the end of your life. Love the wrong person, do not blame yourself, who has not made mistakes. In love, we should be bad girls, flirtatious, and occasionally flirt with other handsome men. Creating a little tension and a healthy dose of jealousy is good for love. Men are definitely aesthetic animals, keep your charm, your mystery, your femininity, he naturally can't do without you. Don't be obedient to him, don't treat him as your only one. Your infatuation will only scare him away. 4. Don't be his mother. "The way to a man's heart is through his stomach." A woman in love, naturally from his mother's hands to take care of his baton, from washing a pair of socks for him, to laundry, washing sheets, cleaning the room, taking out the trash, cooking dinner, and finally upgraded to a full-time nanny. It takes a lot of sacrifice to infiltrate a loved one's life like that. He can't leave you to take care of him, with you, but he will flirt with those women who don't love to do housework and dress up, and he will appreciate those talented women who are not good at cleaning the room but talk gracefully. The right medicine for life, to two people work together to wonderful men and women match, work is not tired, the earth knows. If the package is done, it is less fun to interact, it is easy to get tired, and the "psychology" will produce an imbalance, and the imbalance will naturally quarrel. If he doesn't appreciate it, you'll be hurt. Two people are better than two people. The meal does not have to be cooked at a meal, the smart good home only needs to cook a few specialty dishes, and when doing, it depends on the mood. The woman a man wants - the living room is a lady, the kitchen is a housewife, the bedroom is a slut... When one person plays many roles, it is best to do so until the point is done, and not everyone needs to be so invested. Choosing what you love to do is the key. 5. To him, forget their first love, the most easy to forget is to follow his joy, anger, sadness, happiness of the flow of emotions, like their coffee partners to meet, cooperate with, blend. Think of his want, love his love, moved by his move, love songs always sing love selflessly. Selflessness is a rare experience, but also a kind of lazy behavior. Love is a game that takes two people to play, and both of them have to be creative. What do you think? No, as long as he's happy, I'm happy! This kind of love is bound to be easy to love but difficult to get along with. The right thing to do honey, please be yourself because without yourself, you're lost. Become the you he wants, but your charm, little by little from his heart. He likes your occasional wild capriciousness, but you have turned yourself into an obedient lady. He likes how you handle your work with confidence, and now you're changing your schedule for him. Go home and accompany him, listen to the music he recommends and watch the discs he chooses, and gradually, as if you were brainwashed, your tastes become the same as his. When he says we feel like brother and sister, that's a breakup sign that can't be changed! Give yourself space and give him plenty of freedom. You stay different from you, and he definitely has an interest in tapping into you. 6. Don't hurry to see his parents fall in love with him, you must hold him tight, how to hold him? Oh, and meet the parents and confirm the relationship. People who are fresh in love, like innocent children, have an instinct not to let go of what they love, and will recklessly look for insurance. To see parents, in a sense, is the intention of marriage in the heart of both sides. If he's young, he's not ready, his career is just getting started, and he doesn't want to settle down too early; You're in a hurry to get him to meet your parents, or to get him to meet his parents, and that's just going to put an end to the relationship. Love is neither fresh, nor insurance a love on "marriage", equal to a love on "faint". Love fresh people are easy to make "because they do not understand and together, because they understand and break up" common disease in love. Instead of meeting your parents, it's better to travel together, discover each other, and adapt to each other together. The fierce degree of love is no less than the sky thunder ditch moving fire, but the cool strength of doing things is not surprised, and it is equally important in the relationship between the sexes. If he is your MR.RIGHT, you still need to test him slowly. Want to rely on the elders to get a man, it is not impossible, but what you look forward to may not be what you want. 7. Sex comes naturally to love Fresh people in the face of sex, will go to extremes, either can't wait to try, or must be established after the relationship. Men will hold on to women they care about for a while, and they like challenging pursuit games. If you offer to walk in, to put it crudely, you are lowering your standing in his eyes. The two of you have "dated" many times, and each time the feeling is so sweet, you believe that you are the only love for each other. But you are not willing to take the extra step, to try, and over time, you find that he will be suspicious of you. When is the right time to have sex? God made Adam responsible for taking care of Eve, because Eve was Adam's rib, Adam's private property, Adam's responsibility. Can you believe this classical argument? You are clearly the son of parents, highly educated, working in a foreign company's high-quality white-collar. You fall in love with a man, he must be responsible for you. Oh, in this case, you must not like to hear, completely discrimination against women! You will speak: The first thing to be corrected is that sex is not a thing for men to take advantage of, let alone a thing for women to lose. Are all women masochists? So into that masochistic thing. Sex is the sublimation of love, and when you feel that your body can accept it, then do it. 8. Ask him if you are important or if you are a friend. Like him to accompany you every day, try to create a world of two people with your tenderness. You only have eyes for him. Your love is sick. And you asked him to see only you. Don't like his buddies, always want to take him to the bar, go to that kind of place, not "pick up girls", is "pick up girls", can not see what other fun; At parties, beer after beer, smoke after smoke, rooms like a dog house; During the World Cup, he simply eats and sleeps with his brothers, leaving you in the empty room... "No, between my boyfriend and me, you have to decide." You issued an ultimatum, and he went ahead with it. Finally, you have to say goodbye. When they meet, you find your sister to pay attention to the friendship of men, generally speaking, are more faithful, the love of the woman will also have to finish. Don't interfere too much with men, don't like their parties, don't attend, but there is no need to criticize or speculate. Men love face and freedom more than anything else. In front of his brothers, first, you can't disagree with him (how much men love to blow water, as long as it is not too much, you can smile "in the heart", do not have to show it). Second, you must not accuse him, do not bring the matter of two people to outsiders; Third, you can't ask him to leave when he's having fun with his buddies. If you really don't like a man who values friendship, then find a different type of man. 9. Dare not tell him what is hidden although there are fewer and fewer men with virgin complex, there are still many men with love and cleanliness. Do not want to hear the love of the beloved woman in the past, and hope that the woman who loves him will take him as the first love. When you say "You're nothing like so-and-so (your ex-boyfriend), he never yells at me." And his eyes would burn with rage. People love to make comparisons, and what men hate most is the comparison of women. Instead of talking vaguely about the past, it is better to let him know more about you now. Say the right medicine, memory who did not have the past, even if the "emotional" on a white paper woman, in the student days, also had a crush on someone's experience. Have a love relationship, have a sexual experience, and even have a bad sexual assault, should not be deprived of the qualification of love? Love is acceptance in all aspects, love is tolerance, love is to love each other's shortcomings, not to change each other. With gray memory, girls who go into a new relationship are easy to be unsure of themselves. Without confidence, you can't glow yourself. Love is to let both sides bloom like flowers, burning gorgeous "passion". If you're in love, you should have an account of your past. But, when you confess, he will not be a runaway boyfriend. If he runs, congratulations on getting rid of a bad boyfriend. 10. They like the artistic, unique, and alternative. They have long hair, lots of tattoos on their bodies, and wear leather coats and tattered jeans all year round. He's an unlicensed motorcyclist, he's a loner, he doesn't care, he has a temper. They draw pictures you can't understand, and spend the afternoon playing guitar, singing loudly, and occasionally selling songs in the subway aisles. They are very interesting, but they do not know what is pity incense love jade, and together with them, can only live a chaotic life. Girls also like those rich guys, see their hands, their knowledge as "personality". Often this kind of "personality" boys are easy to "start chaos and abandon." And then there's the one with the amazing words, the mystical philosophy that often overwhelms you on the hour. Often they do not know love, only know disorderly discharge, feel that the more they can attract girls, the more confident they are. Some men must not want unless you just have to have with him, unless your nerves are super strong, unless you are a love collector like him, then you and the above men play it. If we want to have a normal and healthy life, we still need a man who is responsible, has financial strength, and knows how to appreciate you. Last but not least, women are meant to be loved, not abandoned! Tips: If you think this article is helpful to you, please don't forget to point the red thumb in the upper right corner